Why is it dangerous to be in denial when facing divorce?
All the signs are there, divorce is staring you in the face. You’re not talking to your spouse as much as you used to. And when you do talk, it’s either an argument or a short meaningless conversation. If you haven’t discussed divorce before, you’ve certainly thought about it.
But we humans generally don’t like change. In fact, we try so hard to avoid it that many of us are willing to pretend things aren’t as bad as they really. And there aren’t too many events that can change your life like divorce. It can be a financial and relationship overhaul: dividing assets, sometimes support payments are involved, some of the people you’ve spent a lot of time with won’t be around as much anymore, including children if you have any. So it’s normal to avoid digging into the issue.
But sometimes change is necessary. And if divorce is in your future and you’re not learning and planning, you’re at risk of paying the price later.
What can you do to prepare?
First, there’s a wealth of free, reliable information available to you online. Gone are the days when you would have to go to a local library and take out hardcover books (those are still around!) on the topic of divorce to get an idea of how it all works. To start, you can explore reliable government and divorce lawyer websites. Educating up front puts you in a better position to make good decisions and ask the right questions if you need guidance.
Also, if you have a significant amount of either money or time with your children on the line in your divorce, not planning with a reliable divorce attorney up front can result in your making serious and sometimes irreparable mistakes.
General education helps you get a firm grasp on how it all works. However, in many cases, there are nuances that require specialized knowledge and planning. A good plan up front can significantly increase your chances of reaching your divorce goals. To develop a plan specific to your circumstances, it’s important to set up an assessment with a reliable divorce lawyer.
Participating in an assessment with a lawyer will help you put together a plan to optimize your chances of a good outcome in your divorce. Doing the right things early on will help you make the right decisions, which will help you reach your goals.
Talking to a lawyer can also have the side benefit of putting you more at ease. Uncertainty can wreak havoc on hour mind. We’re built with a portion of the brain that’s constantly looking for the worst case scenarios and expecting disaster. Talking to someone who has helped other people through similar circumstances will dial down your anxiety.
It’s easy to bury your head in the sand and pretend that this isn’t happening. But it seems like it is. And if you don’t act now, you may have to suffer the pain later. Take advantage of all of the reliable, free information online. Then reach out to reliable divorce lawyer to discuss your options and develop a plan. Not only will you be more relaxed, but you’ll put yourself in a great position to reach your divorce goals.
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